I support the #WeAreTheThey movement and here’s why….

Social media has been taken by storm recently by the hashtag #WeAreTheThey. If you don’t know what this is, let me explain.

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UK has-been pop-star and television presenter/personality Jamelia recently said during a discussion on the TV show Loose Women:

I think everyone should have access to lovely clothes, BUT I do not think it’s right to facilitate people living an unhealthy lifestyle.  I don’t believe stores should stock clothes below or above a certain weight. They should be made to feel uncomfortable when they go in and can’t find a size.

After an outcry on social media, she ‘apologised’ on breakfast television:

I didn’t make it clear on the show that I was talking about extremes … above a size 20 and below a size 6. Everyone has a right to feel wonderful and feel beautiful and it was never my intention to make people feel any less than what they are.

 I would just like to say in response to that – too late, Jamelia. Too late. You offended me and definitely upset me. Here’s why.

They should be made to feel uncomfortable when they go in and can’t find a size”
I already feel very uncomfortable. Sometimes just getting the bravado up to step outside and out into the world takes everything I’ve got. Especially on a night out when people I’ve never met in my life (usually drunken men) should things like “You fat cow, I’d go home now if I were you!” or “You fat fucking bitch!”

Yes, I am fat. Not sure I deserve pure abuse from people who don’t know me in the street though. So yes, Jamelia. I feel uncomfortable. I shop online with Yours Clothing or Evans or New Look plus size. Recently I just started going into the actual stores (Yours have an online and store presence now and their clothes really are amazing).  So some of the discomfort and shame has gone out of my shopping for clothes experience. But you, you’d have that put back into my life because I don’t fit in with what you consider to be a ‘normal’ range of 6-20.

Are you right? No. People come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Some of them could probably do something to change it, some not. But it’s not your call and if they don’t want to – what has that got to do with you?

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“I was talking about extremes … above a size 20 and below a size 6”
Who are you to set the boundaries of what is, or isn’t acceptable? So a petite woman of 5 ft 1 who is naturally slender and takes a size 4 shouldn’t be able to get clothes easily? What control has she over the shape and size of her body?? I have a cousin who eats like a horse but was so thin at one point she had to shop at Tammy Girl for 12-13 year old clothes. She couldn’t do a damn thing about her high metabolism and weight, no matter what she tried. Why shouldn’t she have access to clothes? It isn’t a health issue; it’s just the way she is.

Above a size 20 isn’t abnormal or extreme. Who died and let you set the limits of acceptability? You are talking about real people, and you aren’t facilitating an unhealthy lifestyle! An example of extreme might be someone who weight 40 stones and hasn’t moved in years and is slowly dying….that’s extreme. But guess what? That person still deserves fucking clothes! Because for all their faults, failings and issues – they’re still a person. It’s still someone’s beloved family member, wife, husband, daughter, son, best friend…..not everyone can be perfect like you, Jamelia. Some people are just born to battle their weight their whole life. They don’t need a judgemental person like you making it worse.

“It was never my intention to make people feel any less than what they are”
Yes it was. You haven’t properly apologised or admitted that you’re wrong. You truly think that people who fit into your ‘extremes’ category don’t deserve the same rights are ‘normal’ people. Tell me, how would you feel if the world went back to one entrance for white people and one entrance round the back for people of colour? Exactly. You are promoting segregation.

At this point, I would like to make it abundantly clear that I am not racist, although I was accused of being jealous and racist towards Jamelia because I disagreed with her on Twitter and had the cheek to post this photo with the hastag #WeAreTheThey.

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A guy started sending tweets to me that were generally abusive and insulting. He then went on to insult other people backing the cause because he agrees with Jamelia:

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I honestly believe that nobody in this world has the right to judge another human being unless it’s in a court of law. If you don’t like what you see, that’s your problem, your issue and if you want to voice your opinion, fine. But to attack one individual on social media and insult them because of the way they look? That just smacks of narrow mindedness and intolerance.

I know that to some extent, we all judge. I know I’ve written an article on here about how 80s rockers have aged and how they look now. But those are just my observations, not an open attack and barrage of name calling and insults.

So there you go, Sean from Enderby, your 15 minutes of fame. I wonder if any female in your family is overweight and what she would think if she knew about the hateful bile you spout on Twitter and Youtube? I’m willing to bet you wouldn’t admit to running the toxic accounts you run and which actually  has inspired this account:

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Anyway, not long after all of this happened, I noticed I was getting new followers; fellow women of plus size. I followed back and started looking through all the beautiful photos under the #WeAreTheThey hasgtag. I was stunned by how many beautiful women there are out there who are carrying some extra weight and getting labelled as an ‘extreme’ because of it. They aren’t extreme – they’re just different to you. We’re different to you; we are The They.

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This social media campaign is the brainchild of the hugely inspirational Debz from The Non-So Secret Diary of a Wannabe Princess. Quite Frankly, she’s my hero at the moment. She’s fearless, outspoken, confident, secure, happy, gorgeous, glamorous and fat. She won’t be offended that I said that, because she is.  She knows she is. I’m fat and I know it too, but guess what? It’s not hurting any of you. It’s none of your damned business.

So the next time you decide to get on your high horse, Jamelia and judge people based on their body shape or appearance, I suggest you stop and look in a mirror. Take a good long look at yourself.

Are you perfect? No, thought not. You’re just human….like the rest of us. The only difference is, us ‘extreme’ fatties spend our time building other women up and trying to be supportive and encouraging without passing judgement.  You should try it sometime.

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Baftas 2014 Red Carpet Fashion – hits and misses

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Awards season is now in full swing.

Just ahead of the Academy awards next month were the BAFTAs, which took place last night.  It was a glittering night where Hollywood and UK film royalty (and also actual royalty) stepped out onto the (rainy) red carpet.

Who nailed the red carpet look? And who failed? Here are our hits and misses.

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Break out star Lupita Nyong’o (12 years a slave) looked absolutely stunning in this green satin Dior number.  The colour is fresh, the cut is elegant and feminine and the gold band at the waist is echoed simply but effectively in the arm jewellery. Everything about this outfit is spot on.

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Michelle Rodriguez….I honestly don’t know where to start, so I’ll start at the top. First off, her hair is a complete mess. Fine if you want to go for the carefree beach hair look on the beach, but at a red carpet event you should be polished and neat. Next, again – we’re not at the beach love. The surfer beaded jewellery (and that’s what it is, trust me), is great for the surfer bad ass chick beach look, but again – you’re at a movie award event at a prestigious location! Sparkly jewels and pretty accessories work.  Wooden surfer dude looking beads don’t. The dress.  THE DRESS.  Could have been cool if it wasn’t a) creased b) utterly ugly.  She could have got around the dress with the right hair, make up and jewellery but she failed on everything.  Ugh.

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Maybe a controversial choice but I love Gillian Anderson in the striped blue satin gown with the flowing detail at the back.  She looks a little unsure (as though she forgot something….like maybe finishing her hair off?), but she gets away with it.  The earrings work too. Pretty.

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Pink & Orange together often work, when done correctly. But the cut and shape of this gown is utterly naff and so are Lily’s hair accessories. From top to toe I think she looks like a complete joke, but since my favourite red carpet failure Helen Bonham Carter wasn’t there someone else had to provide the laughs.  Thanks, Lily Allen.

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Cate Blanchett just looks so elegant. The dress is gorgeous and the necklace is very ‘Lord of the Rings’ and is a fab, pretty statement piece that works well with the gown. The gentle coiffed hairdo is feminine and well groomed but still loose enough to look soft on her face. The whole look is spot on.

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Joely Richardson…..hair, good.  Barely there make up, bad.  Chicken neck with no jewellery to hide said chicken neck, very very bad. Shapeless, loud, garish dress from Eastenders market – unforgivable. Weird middle toe being bigger than big toe and poking out of peep toes – horrific. Truly dreadful ensemble. Someone get the woman a stylist.

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Playing it safe in black but totally rocking it with perfect hair, gorgeous red statement lips, sheer chiffon overlay, on trend nails and jewellery is Superman’s Supergirl, Amy Adams. She looks elegant, poised and gorgeous.

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Pearly Queen Maggie Gyllenhal has managed to make herself 50 years old.  The hair would work with the right clothing but the high collar on the madly embellished jacket just does not work. Pity, as the skirt is actually really pretty and so are the sleeves. Picture this gown with a plain black satin bodice…..yeah.  That.

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Chat show Queen Oprah Winfrey is rocking this Stella McCartney number. The georgette skirt is beautifully flattering, whilst the fitted lace bodice contains Oprah’s ample assets well. The satin bow completes this gown, in a colour that suits Oprah down to the ground. The jewellery and clutch are gorgeous. I would have preferred if she had done something decent with her hair, but she still outshone many women half her age and half her size.

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First of all, it’s not that cold, Cruella. Second, if the dress had been in red satin, it would have worked. But it isn’t so it looks like a sack of wrinkled crap. A shame as I love the hair.

So that’s the top 5 hits and misses.  And now, onto the special awards.  Emphasis on special for some of these.

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Great shoes, Ange.  Might have looked better with a DRESS.  Making a statement is Hollywood’s (once) prettiest couple in his n’ hers suits. It works, I’m just not a fan….and here’s how you do it properly…

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A good suit, a nice dress, happy arm in arm picture.  See, that wasn’t too hard was it?

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Emma Thompson articulately sums up my entire thoughts about Stephen Fry and his very poor, unfunny, mumbly, stuttering turn as presenter.

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Tinie Tempah high 5’s the future King of England.  Risssspeck!

So, what are your thoughts? Agree, disagree? Did we miss someone who looked amazing or someone who made Lily Allen look well dressed?

We’ll be back early in March for the Oscars 🙂

 

 

Golden Globes Red Carpet Fashion

So. It has begun. Awards season is here and very soon we’ll be captivated by BAFTAS and Academy Awards fashion, but before that, there’s this little ceremony called the Golden Globes which took place at the Beverley Hilton hotel in LA last Sunday. For the main part, the stars shone, some shimmered and some skidded onto the red carpet and landed flat on their face.  Seriously, as if these people don’t have make-up artists, hairdressers and personal stylists!! I’m going to start with the misses, just because it makes me happy to laugh at people with so many resources as their disposal looking ridiculous.

Worst Dressed

#1 – Paula Patton

This dress is HIDEOUS. The unforgiving fabric that proudly shows of her rib bones is bad enough but that thing! That ’embellishment’ ?  What is that?! A towel slung over her shoulder?! A spare bit of net curtain? I’m all for big flowers and bold statements ala Carrie Bradshaw (SAtC), but nothing about this is nice.  Nothing.

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#2 – Zoe Saldana

What is this dress supposed to be? I hate the arm straps/neckline, which quite frankly just looks naff. I hate the crystal embellished sheer floral panel at the front which makes the dress seem so busy and fussy and I really hate the too big shoes on her and the stupid way she’s standing in them. The bag doesn’t even match the shoes ffs! Dreadful.

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#3 – Emma Thompson

Hilary Clinton called.  She wants her hair back.  The hair can only distract me for so long though.  The bacofoil dress chops Emma in half, makes her look too short, has an awful neckline, flattens her boobs and her shoes make her look like she’s standing on tip toe.  She looks uncomfortable, and looking at this get up makes me uncomfortable!

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#4 – Hayden (Pantyliner) Panettiere

I hate the hair.  Jennifer Lawrence did is earlier, and better. I detest the paneling on the dress which looks a little cheaply made or is ill fitting. I don’t like the split – it either needs to be full thigh at her age or not at all.  She looks like she’s trying too hard to be a grown up sexy woman, when really she needed younger couture to achieve that, not Sharon Stone styling. Massive miss.

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#5 – Julia Roberts

Is it a shirt? Is it a dress? Who knows…or cares? Lose the shirt thing and you’ve got yourself a perfectly acceptable gorgeous bandeau black dress, complete with gorgeous sparkly belt.  Keep the shirt thing and you look rubbish.  At her age and with the amount of events she’s attended, she really shouldn’t be getting it wrong, still. Oh dear.

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Now for the lovely ladies who seem to own mirrors and a sense of style.

Best Dressed

#1 – Reece Witherspoon

Injecting some much needed colour (look above – black…white…black and white, yawn!), Reece looks stunning in this form fitting dress which hugs in all the right places. This colour and style look amazing on her and the gorgeous swept aside hair, natural makeup and silver accessories all look gorgeous. The dress doesn’t need embellishment; the excellent cut and fabric speak for themselves and the feature point comes in at the back – stylish, elegant and a huge hit.

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#2 – Emma Watson

More colour now, and our very own Emma Watson looking lovely in red (orange??). She arrived on the red carpet wearing what seemed like a safe fashion choice; a demurely cut Dior Couture dress.  Then she turned around to reveal it was a dress and pants combo.  Very daring, but the gamble pays off and she looks amazing. Also, love the shoes!

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#3 – Michelle Dockery

Another Brit, another hit. I simply adore this gown. I love the shoes, her hair and make-up, the lack of accessories (this dress speaks for itself, no need for added bling). Simply stunning.

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#4 – Amy Adams

She looks oh so gorgeous in this red hot Valentino gown. Once again, colour all the way for me this season! This dress oozes elegance and glamour in an understated way. The updo, subtle jewellery and make-up give Amy a timeless beauty that compliments the gown.  Considering she’s a natural red-head, this colour works surprisingly well on her.

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#5 – Sarah Paulson

I love this fairytale like gown. It’s refreshing to see someone go all out for the ‘pretty’ look, rather than A list glamour. This sweet dress makes me feel like I’m looking at an ethereal, mystical creature from Lord of the Rings rather than the red carpet! Sarah looks lovely; Lana Banana done good!

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Special Mentions

Cutest Couple – Chris Hemsworth and his pregnant wife. Looking gorgeous, happy and in love.  Also, they seem quite chuffed about baby #2.

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Kooky Beauty – Shouldn’t work, does.  Pretty little Pixie Zooey Deschanel – I am in love with her, still.

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Best dressed Mama-to-be – Olivia Wilde, showing the others how it’s done!

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Best dressed male – Leonardo DiCaprio; like a fine wine gets better with age….

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Orlando Bloom – love the threads, hate the weave.  Get a haircut.

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Worst dressed couple. Matthew….green velour?  Really?! I kinda like the dress though…in a TOWIE way.

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Well, that’s my round up of hits and misses. Black and white is bad, colour is good and less is more. Bring on the rest of the season!